For The SEVENTH time, No.

Okay, So I was reading the book of First Samuel the other day. Some of you may be familiar with that story, but I had a little encounter with God and that story was used to convict me of a little situation...(lol)

To be honest, I did not plan to study the book of Samuel this week! I was so into the New Testament and studying the characteristic of Jesus, so I knew it had to have been God that led me back to the Old Testament. Okay so, I attend a really big school, and although I have completely gave my life to Christ, with the evidence of a CHANGED life, I am still human. So truth be told, when this cutie walked pass me and gestured me in some way, you best believe my next prayer was, "LORD is he the ONE?". Yes, girl..It was that deep. (LOL)

So anyway:

I assume that God was so not down with that, I mean, who does that anyway? It's crazy how we are when it comes down to guys. So, we get saved and make the decision that we're no longer gonna date guys that pull us away from Christ, stay single for a little minute, then instead of embracing the season of ALONE time with God, we mistake it as a season of loneliness. And who wants to be lonely? So we take it upon ourselves and get into a relationship with the first man who have a FORM of godliness (because we're not patient enough to wait for the ones FULLY committed to God)...then end up getting hurt all over again. See, I know a little something.

(Notice the Cross behind you, waiting on you to recognize Him and return? You are not alone.)


Continuing with the story:

In my quiet time with God, He was really dealing with my heart concerning this issue. He really wanted me to chill out when it came down to "mentally" choosing who I wanted to pursue me. And the bad part about it was that I would actually pray about it as if God was really gonna CANCEL His plans for mine. I'm just like, "Okay God, he is a really attractive, he seems to love You, and I sure love You! Why wouldn't we work together?". Silly me. I knew I was just as wrong as two left feet, but I'm so tired of waiting for a guy. So why not just choose who I want and then ask God to bless the relationship?  "There's nothing wrong with that, God. Right?" WRONG. I rambled and rambled for a while, and God FINALLY interceded. "Go to the book of  First Samuel, and read how David was chosen to be the next king of Israel." Now I was already familiar with this story, but I had NO idea
where God was getting at. I couldn't see how this was going to help me.




When I read the book of First Samuel, I read all the way through the 16th Chapter. Okay so Samuel was a great profit of Israel. Obeying God, Samuel anointed a man name Saul to be the king of Israel. Long story short, Saul ended up disobeying God, so therefore Samuel was ordered by God to chose another king to place in Saul's position. Samuel then went to a man named Jesse's house, who had 8 sons. When Samuel saw the first son, he was so SURE that he was the anointed one. But because Samuel had a relationship with God and listened to His voice, he instantly got checked by God. God said to Samuel, "Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart." (1Sam 16:7)
 So let me just say this, At this point I just KNEW that this was the scripture that God was trying to get me to all along. It all clicked. I was so SURE by looking on the outside appearance of that guy that he had to be the ONE. Even when I talked to him I just knew. Reading that scripture took me right back to my lane, and I stepped out of God's way. God was reminding me to settle my little tale down and to STOP assuming that these guys, who only "appear" to be saved, are not my Boaz.
It took Samuel SEVEN no's to get to his one yes. But because Samuel had a relationship with God, he didn't have to go through any mess. What if Samuel went with his original thought instead of listening to the voice of God? He would have chosen the WRONG king. And who knows what would have happen from that? God told Samuel "No" with all the other seven brothers, but when Samuel saw David, he knew that God had chosen him. He then anointed him as king. Just like that.

All I'm saying is,

We could avoid a lot of "situation-ships" If we just learn to listen to God and not ASSUME we already know who God has for us. You could not tell me that guy wasn't the one. But I'm so glad that I had my "come to Jesus" moment. Because after about week later, I was able to see that he and I had TOTAL different views. It was so different, I'm not even sure rather he's a christian. I was so glad that I didn't fall in too deep. Which happens a lot.

So Ladies...Please, allow God to CHOOSE for you. I know this season is frustrating because everyone else around you are all coupled up. But who knows if they're doing it God's way? Keep your eye on YOUR season and stop comparing. Allow God to use you for His good works. At the proper time God, will send the ONE. But until then, and even after, FOCUS on your relationship with Jesus...Not no man.

Take it from me,

-Lashanni R.

Oh wait, Here are a few scriptures about this subject:

-Check out the book of 1st Samuel

- Proverbs 3:4-5..."Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths."

- Psalms 25:5-9 .......Lead me in your truth and teach me, for you are the God of my salvation; for you I wait all the day long. Remember your mercy, O Lord, and your steadfast love, for they have been from of old. Remember not the sins of my youth or my transgressions; according to your steadfast love remember me, for the sake of your goodness, O Lord! Good and upright is the Lord; therefore he instructs sinners in the way. He leads the humble in what is right, and teaches the humble his way.

- Matthew 6:33......But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

- II Timothy 3:16....( this could help you understand how the David story can help you) .."All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,"